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Queer Love

Queer Love: What Happens When There Is No Sex In A Relationship?

What is a relationship? Is it just about sex and physical intimacy? Or is it about emotional sharing? Or does caring for each other form the core of a relationship?

A Couple’s Ledger: Trust by Arvin Ombika, oil on canvas (2017); Courtesy: ongoing @engenderedart exhibition at the High Line Nine Gallery in the Chelsea Arts District of Manhattan

Relationships are complicated. Defined and undefined. Waiting to fit into a template. Wanting to be different. Every relationship wants to be unique. Yet, they long to be recognised and respected. Everyone wants to belong somewhere, anywhere.

In Indian society, family remains the predominant relationship that holds everything together, and even tries to define every other societal relationships. Family becomes the reference point for most other social interactions. When friends are important to you, you say they are ‘friends like family’. Whenever you get into an argument with your house help, you console them by saying that they are like your family. In fact, many of us imagine our lives to unwind like the script of a Bollywood film which celebrates the idea of a family and mostly has a happy ending.

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