Men Can Be From Venus

An Outlook-Moods-Cfore survey maps the new Indian male: He is as at ease at home as he is at workspace. An equal, and not a bully in relationships.

Updated on: 7 February 2024 6:04 pm

Outlook-Moods Sex Survey
Men Can Be From Venus
In the bedroom and the boardroom, in the kitchen and with kids, the new AlphaMale is desirable, not dominating, attentive, not arrogant. Hes a buddy-likehusband, mother-like father, soulmate and sex partner. Sexually open-minded,professionally adaptive, collectively cool. The Outlook-Moods-Cfore survey, done in 14metros and mini-metros, shows manhood can now be defined as mens liberation frompatriarchy. Call it MaleLib 2006.

Questions to MEN

What is more important in your life: sex or the woman?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Sex	26	22	29
The woman	24	26	22
Both equally important	50	52	49

93% men in Hyderabad agreed that there should be equal sexual pleasure for men and women, though almost 20% disagreed in Amritsar. And while 56% in Chennai said they would be more turned on if the woman initiated sex, in Surat only 34% said yes.

Should there be equal pleasure for men and women in a sexual relationship?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	85	88	83
No	15	12	17

Would you be more turned on if a woman initiated sex?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	44	50	38
No	24	21	28
Would make no diff	32	29	34

Would it hurt your male ego if your partner taught you about sexual performance and pleasure?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	17	12	21
No	53	57	49
Maybe	16	19	13
Dont know/ cant say	14	12	17

Do you still think it is important for girls to be virgins when they get married, or have your views changed recently?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Changed recently	31	40	22
Still the same	69	60	78

Have you ever met women who only want sex but dont insist on commitment?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Never	56	48	65
One or two	33	37	29
Quite a few	9	12	5
All the time	2	3	1

Did you receive or give oral sex in the last one year?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Only received	19	22	16
Only gave	11	12	10
Both received and gave	26	30	21
Didnt engage in oral sex at all	44	36	53

Do you enjoy sex with a submissive woman or an equally passionate one?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Submissive	24	18	30
Passionate	76	82	70

Have you ever been used by women who slept with you only to get ahead in career?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Never	50	45	57
Once	29	29	28
Sometimes	17	21	13
Quite few times	4	5	2

32% in Bangalore felt intelligence was the most appealing factor in a woman. Less than half thought so in Surat. 66% of Suratwallahs said a beautiful woman was the most appealing, while only 31% of Delhi men agreed. For them, her attitude was more vital.

What do you find most appealing in a woman?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Her attitude	26	30	22
Her intelligence	19	21	17
Her power	6	7	5
Her beauty	49	42	56

What would you do if your wife/girlfriend told you that you are a boring sexual partner?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Never talk to her again	14	9	18
Apologise and try to think of a solution	16	15	17
Go to a sexologist for help	10	13	8
Ask her why she feels so and how you could jointly change it	60	63	57

Almost 60% in Delhi solicited the services of sex workers while only 34% visited brothels in Lucknow. In Mumbai too 55% men paid for sex. In this tinsel town, 28% men had a same-sex experience, but into the Deccan, in Vijayawada, only half of those did so.

Did you solicit sex workers in the last one year?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	42	46	37
No	58	54	63

Do you think intelligent women are bad lovers?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	22	18	26
No	38	36	41
Better lovers	40	46	33

What is your favourite sexual enhancer?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Drugs	5	7	2
Pornography	39	37	41
Dirty talk	15	12	17
Role-playing	5	9	1
Dont use any	36	35	39

Did you have a same-sex experience in the last year?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	20	23	16
No	80	77	84

Do you like having sexual relationships with women in positions of power?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	25	28	22
No	30	25	35
Being powerful doesnt matter	45	47	43

Did you ever have virtual sex (via internet etc)?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	35	42	27
No	65	58	73


Questions to WOMEN
Virginity, commitment-phobia, pornography and reluctance towards oral sex still dominate womens sexual confessions about men. But whats undeniably changing is the belief of both sexes in the equality of the new, emerging equations.

Do men still want virgin brides or have they changed?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Still the same	58	47	66
Have changed	23	30	15
Cant say	19	23	19

Does your spouse take you for granted?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	61	54	69
No	39	46	31

Do you like to be with men who do not want to commit?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	26	31	20
No	74	69	80

Is your husband/boyfriend concerned about your sexual satisfaction?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	49	52	47
No	51	48	53

Does your husband/ boyfriend spend a lot of time and money on his appearance?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	30	39	22
No	70	61	78

37% of Delhi women wanted to be with men who were not ready to commit but only 14% of Surat women liked such men. 44% women in Mumbai felt their husbands would be tolerant of their friendship with other men, but only 12% in Amritsar felt the same.

Is your husband/boyfriend tolerant about your friendship with other men?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	29	39	18
No	71	61	82

Does your spouse consult you on all financial decisions for the family?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	72	76	68
No	28	24	32

Does your husband/ boyfriend change diapers and feed the children while you are away? (Only respondents with kids)
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Always	10	12	7
Sometimes	79	80	77
Never	11	8	16

Did your spouse insist that you change your last name to his after marriage?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	60	52	67
No	40	48	33

Does your husband give you oral sex?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	45	51	39
No	55	49	61

How often does your husband/boyfriend share the housework with you?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Very often	14	21	8
Sometimes	62	59	63
Rarely	16	13	21
Never	8	7	8

45% women in Delhi suspected that their husbands were cheating on them. Only 7% in Vijayawada and 15% in Amritsar felt their husbands were straying.

Do you get the feeling that sometimes your man is fantasising about someone else while having sex?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	40	38	41
No	60	62	59

Do you think all household expenditure should be borne by the man even if wife is working?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	52	46	58
No	48	54	42

Is your husband/boyfriend okay with you supporting your parents?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	53	59	47
No	47	41	53

In the last one year, have you ever suspected that your husband has been cheating on you?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	28	37	20
No	72	63	80

Does your husband/ boyfriend use sexual enhancers?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	37	40	35
No	63	60	65

Do you really believe in equal relationships between women and men or you think its just media hype?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes, I believe in it totally	54	61	45
Well, things are changing	25	22	28
I dont think equality exists	14	11	16
Media has just created this	7	6	11

Would your husband be okay if you frequently travelled on work for long periods?
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Yes	39	45	32
No	61	55	68

What is your favourite sexual enhancer? (% of those who said they use enhancers)
	Overall	Metros	Other Cities
Drugs	11	13	8
Pornography	52	43	60
Dirty talk	29	32	26
Role-playing	8	12	6

Methodology
Research organisation Cfore conducted the survey between November 7-22 in Delhi, Mumbai, Calcutta, Chennai, Bangalore, Hyderabad, Lucknow, Amritsar, Patna, Cuttack, Vijayawada, Madurai, Surat and Nasik. A statistically selected sample of 2,386 men and 914 women were interviewed from sec A and sec B category in the age group of 25-40. The sexual attitudes survey was conducted separately where the respondents were ensured anonymity. The respondents were selected using street corner sampling method, then given a questionnaire which they could drop in a ballot box.
All Figure In Percentage