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Don't Stoop To Our Male Level

Why drop the bar? It's time to take off the heavy-duty FCP boxing gloves -- an open response to Ms. Namrata Balwani
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Don't Stoop To Our Male Level
Don't Stoop To Our Male Level
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Dear Namrata,

You know, I entirely agree with you. Entirely. I have tremendous regard for the way women of this country have evolved, against all the men-made odds as it were. I am deeply impressed at the way they juggle urban stress, married life and heavy familial expectations.

Most men I know would find it enormously difficult to get even close and that includes myself. In fact, I would go a step further and state, generally speaking of course, and at the risk of being lynched by fellow men I might add, women tend to constitute a superior race on most parameters, especially when it comes to resilience, character, maturity, will-power and inner-strength.

I suspect you read my article with your heavy-duty FCP (Female Chauvinist Pig, yup, that’s that breed now) boxing gloves on, and have needlessly made this into a battle of one-up-man-ship (or should that be one-up-woman-ship?). And in the process, completely missed the proverbial woods for the trees.

The only point I was attempting to make, albeit in a harsh and provocative manner (I don’t do comfortable), is that some urban ladies, in their misplaced so-called ‘liberated’ beliefs, are attempting to emulate the worst ‘qualities’ of their male counterparts (smoking, drinking, drugs, abuse, chauvinism, etc) in order to be seen as ‘equals’.

There is no need for that to happen. A woman can be successful, yet be herself. She can be strong and have her way in the new-age, competitive world without having to be masculine. She can be intensely feminine and yet emerge tops in ALL walks of life. Millions of such women exist in our cities and some Indian names that are commonly known would include people like Shabana Azmi and Arundhati Roy. Both strong, successful, ‘role-model’ ladies, but entirely feminine.

Agreed, only a segment of the urban women would fall into the wannabe-man category. But that 5-10% figure can so easily rise to 10-15% before we know it.

All I said to you, and all ladies reading the article, was to be yourself and be proud of it. Don’t drop the bar by stooping to our men’s level.

And yes, do drop in for a cup of tea. Promise to prepare it myself.

Anil Thakraney

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