Dear Shree, A few months ago, I started dating a great guy. We were polar opposites, but still found a way to “click” with no effort. I was the happiest I had been in a very long time; we had a great time together, and seldom fought. Truthfully, I had never experienced a connection like this before. About three weeks ago, he told me that he couldn’t be in a relationship because he had “a lot of personal things to figure out before he could love someone”. He said he didn’t want to stop dating me, but thought it wasn’t fair to have me wait for him to figure things out. It was hard on me, because it came out of left field. However, we decided to remain friends (as we had only been together a short while), and we still talked almost every day. When we did communicate, he was usually the one reaching out first. At first, we only talked about “surface level” topics, but has since shifted back to more in-depth conversations.