Dear Shree, I’ve been miserable in my marriage almost since we got married, which was four years ago. We went to a few boring pre-marriage counseling sessions, where the counselor asked us why we wanted to get married and my first gut instinct was “I don’t know,” but because I was put on the spot, I said it was because I loved him, which I did and still do. He is truly my best friend and I love and care for him deeply. However, for at least a year now I have been confused about how I feel about the marriage. I want to be free and unattached and I often wonder if I’m with the right person and what it would be like without him in my life. I feel deep in my heart that this marriage isn’t going to stick. But I don’t want to hurt him because he is a good man, and if I wanted to leave him it would destroy him and I don’t want to be responsible for that. I have also cheated, but he doesn’t know and I could never ever tell him as it would break his heart. I’m confused, and sad, and don’t want to hurt this man that loves me unconditionally.