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“I’ve Saved So Many Marriages Prescribing Viagra”

India's best-known sexologist on male sexuality—history, hearsay and hype.

“I’ve Saved So Many Marriages Prescribing Viagra” “I’ve Saved So Many Marriages Prescribing Viagra”

When it comes to sex (and what else can it come to?), you could call Dr Prakash Kothari an early bloomer. He set up India’s first department of sexual medicine at Mumbai’s KEM Hospital, and has been a sexologist for 36 years. That’s more than the upper age of the Indian men studied in our sex survey. Prakashbhai is an enthusiastic conversationalist. Anecdotal, straight-faced funny but surprisingly still interested in answering good old boring questions. Every interview with him is like the familiar sexual act. Foreplay, wham bam, thank you doctor etc. This may be no different, he warns. “People have been asking me the same questions for years,” he says affably. His answers are now salted with words like “it’s changing”, but the essential rhythm remains the same. “For men, sex is an indoor sport and its success is based on performance and victory,” he asserts. Besides being a front-row viewer of the fallouts of this sport—especially when the score is not love all—he has, for the last 30 years been a collector of erotica. It began 30 years back when Mulk Raj Anand gifted him some 18th-century Kangra miniatures. His book Erotica, The Art of Loving, to be released later this month, reproduces this rare collection of personal letters, sculptures, objets d’art, paintings, stamps and knick-knacks from all the world. “These pieces have helped me to understand the passions that drive men and women to experience the heights of their sexuality and express who they are,” writes Dr Kothari. Here, he talks to Shefalee Vasudev about male sexuality—history, hearsay and hype.

What does a sexologist actually do for a living?

A sexologist can be a professionally skilled individual or he could be an explosive quack! As a clinical consultant in sexual health, dealing with sexual dysfunctions is my area of expertise. This includes disorders of sexual desire, erectile dysfunctions and orgasmic dysfunctions in men and disorders of lubrication and orgasm in women.

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