On the night of Sunday, December 16, 2012, a 23 year old paramedical student from Dehra Dun was gangraped and brutally tortured on a moving bus in New Delhi. Almost four days since then, she has undergone five surgeries and is battling for her life. An outraged nation is demanding there be stringent punishment for rape. But as they say, charity begins at home and with that in mind, I am sharing what I earlier shared as a status message on Facebook:
"In light of the recent incidents -- I want to have a son (biological or adopted). I want to have a little boy and I want to teach him how to be a man -- how to not kick dogs or throw stones at them, how to not break his toys. I want to tell him that being sensitive and shedding tears is not a silly thing, that it's okay if he wants to sit at home and paint or read. When he is old enough, I will show him a few birthing videos, scar him for life and tell him that some woman went through all that pain to make him and that he needs to respect every woman he comes across in his life because they all have a power he doesn't and that he should forever be thankful, for without them, he wouldn't be."
"All these Nazi like horrors were revenge based because of perceived insults to manhood!"
Why blame Nazi's always.....
According to Time magazine of September 17, 1945, the US government provided their soldiers with an estimated 50 million condoms per month, and graphically instructed them as to their use.
One of the US soldiers wrote home “ For all practical purposes, our soldiers were being told: , Teach these Germans a lesson — and have a wonderful time!-- Such were the great crusaders who brought “democracy” to Europe.”
All of these 50 million condoms per month were consumed-- by doing what?
Using them as beach volleyballs?
that there were no whore houses in Germany at the end of the war.
Two million German women were raped after the 2nd world war by Eisenhowers Allied soldiers.
The fall guys were of course the Red Star army of the Russians and the Black African soldiers
Bharti Ghosh >> Why men commit sexual crimes is because they are bullies. And bullies buckle down real fast when bullied themselves
And many a times these bullies harras non bully men as well. The problem is something deeper - our country is having a huge teeming population of young men, who are not employed, not employable.
This is in a way the end result of the economic policies that have punished development and progress and rewarded status quo. The more time is wasted on status quo and stalling development, more we have unemployed bully males who have too much time on their hand and feel the need to harras the weak (mostly women,and sometimes men too) to prove a point.
First of all, the average Indian parent should give the same care and respect to their offsprings,, without any gender bias . Avoid using Ultrasound to forcibly abort female foetus.,
Why men commit sexual crimes is because they are bullies. And bullies buckle down real fast when bullied themselves. I think public shame should be introduced as a punishment. Speedy trials and well televised public shaming such as caning before start of sentence etc should get to be mandatory. The fear that the slightest hint of a runaway, flaming manhood could get subjected to some violent, official thrashing would be a good damper to any untoward stirrings in the loins. Perhaps then the scrawny, pan chewing, lungi wearer swaggering as he makes clucking noises at any woman who happens to meet his gay eyes would be a thing of the past. What's time in jail for a lowly life form anyway? He would be happy to be with more of his kind, a roof over his head and his meals on time.
Recently there was Shonali Mukherjee on KBC with a heart-wrenching story of acid being thrown on her head while she’s asleep. Her head melted away. How barbaric is that! And the devils who did it are free because they did not rape? Also recently is the incident of a young girl attacked and murdered by a security guard at Bhakti Park, Mumbai. The girl with a slit throat actually rushed around ringing the apathetic neighbours’ doorbells before giving in. Equally horrific! All these Nazi like horrors were revenge based because of perceived insults to manhood! And both incidents are now in the past because justice is going to take its time and if something does come out it would be a day’s news in the papers to be forgotton and without impact. No lessons taught , no lessons learnt. These goons need to be shaken not stirred!
An aggravated sexual assault can be termed as rape, even if there were no penetration ,biologically speaking. Laws in India have to be changed about sexual assault and in respect to the treatment of women in the society.
But a rape ( aggravated sexual assault) is a learned behaviour. A respect to a woman ,developed in a man ( because it is a learned behaviour) should effectively check rape incidents. In USA for example, in some cities rape incidents are very high. If compared, to per population basis, rape incidents ( in that case ) are less in Indian cities compared to US. But that cannot be a solace. In our country women Goddesses are worshipped in temples. So, naturally we have to think as to what is happening to our society? Have we lost our roots? It is because rape in Urban areas are increasing by every year and statistics for every city shows that.
We are fast losing our roots and emulating the west. Since rape is a learned behaviour ( or an acquired psychological behaviour) we must know that all types of commercialization of women making her a commodity is bound to lead to a wrong emphasis , of looking at a woman. A woman is a person , a whole being and may be much more sentimental and sophisticated due to her feminine nature than what a man can be. But treatment of womanhood as a commodity leads to dangerous consequences , a dangerous behavioural pattern in men. Social background, genetically, tendencies also lead to development of a rapist.
In our Puranas it is said that reading about three women in their original depiction by Valmiki in Ramayana and Bhagavan Vysa in Mahabharata cures the perverted sexual behaviour in men. But for sure I can say that it can inculcate lot of respect for women. These women are Sita , Ruma ( wife of Vali ) ,and Droupadi. There are many commentaries by Sanskrit scholars who said that reading stories of these three woman even cure sexual phantasies.
While reading Ramayana it is also warned that after Kishkinada khanda and reading about the heart rending cries of Ruma over the body of Vali, one must stop reading and shall take bath and read the last chapter of Ramayana wherein coronation of Lord Rama is described. And so, is the case with Sita. In Valmiki Ramyana alone, in Yuddha Khanda a battle ground is described where Lord Rama is perceived to be dead , with all arrows all over his body like a procupine. Sita comes to the battle ground , weeps over her husband, ranting about her mind,her beliefs, her desires and her love of husband , with dead Rama’s head in her lap. Even Rakshasa woman who accompanied her, suddenly engulf in grief and start weeping. After reading this scene , it is advised that you should go back and read about Kumbha Karna's death once again.
Respect for woman is a learned habit. One has to cultivate it and his family background and the literature he reads helps him cultivate this. The literature is such as the ones which shows the greatness of their feminine nature , their natural propensity to show love and affection and crises they face just because they are woman. Unless otherwise in a world where a woman is more or less treated as a commodity just like chocolate for example, a man cannot develop respect for woman or would be able to understand their feminine, beautiful mind or heart.