POSTED BY Sundeep Dougal ON Jul 17, 2012 AT 23:59 IST ,  Edited At: Jul 17, 2012 23:59 IST

If you read one piece today, read Natasha Badhwar's must-read, powerful piece in the Mint today:

It never occurred to us that staying at home might make our life safer. You know why? Because it doesn’t.

A visiting uncle suddenly grabs you and you know IT IS NOT A HUG. Family weddings, festivals, vacations, my mother’s tailor, the X-ray technician, the physiotherapist, your Maths tutor, the neighbour, the home delivery man...you can be fondled, touched, flashed, anytime, anywhere. And we are. If I say, raise your hand if you haven’t been physically violated in a place where you were supposed to be safe, there will be NO HANDS RAISED.

The dead silence, the repeated breach of trust in our private spaces makes them more dangerous than the brutal world outside. Nothing happened to you, we are told. Don’t tell anyone. We are left hurting where the wounds don’t show, and sometimes those wounds never heal.

We have spent so much energy forgetting and then being rudely reminded that each one of us has been victimized. Each one of us has been hurt, isolated and confused. Men and women, growing up in a world of casual, unreported sexual violence.

What is the difference between the world that I grew up in and the world our children are growing up in?

It’s a one word answer.

I am the difference.

Read on at the LiveMint: Views | The harsh realities of sexual violence: Guwahati and beyond

POSTED BY Sundeep Dougal ON Jul 17, 2012 AT 23:59 IST ,  Edited At: Jul 17, 2012 23:59 IST
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6/D-149
Aug 02, 2012
11:49 PM

Yes, its better to carry a little chilli,pepper powders/small knives in handbags BUT DONOT USE THEM when you are being overpowered by more. Chances are we'll worsen the situation. Dont overly panic, keep your thoughtstream clear and look for slightest favouring chances to wriggle yourself out from there. Its almost akin to tackling street dogs at night time (which are common in any Indian street). You can shoo or thwart one or two from attacking you, but not a pack of them. 

Ok, this is making the forum air grave, which is not to my liking. Carry little salt and small knife inyour purse. If for nothing, you can have raw mangoes cut and sprinkle salt and .... SLURRRRRRP !! :D
To balance this, as is usually done by Outlook, theres a women's college hostel in tirupati, known for its notoriety of commenting on passers-by, especially men. There were stories galore which were told to me by my DOSTinis during my univ grad. I STRONGLY suggest to our dear Mr.Mu not to go there. So, to me it appears, its all about being in a mob/group. We might've witnessed very shy guys/gals tranforming themselves into someone else when in group (ofcourse, the group may hav to be likeminded)

Sangeetha
Chennai, India
5/D-85
Jul 23, 2012
12:12 PM

Boys face it more than girls but it's never shown.

karate or taekwondo is a good option but learning the general manners is very important. Other things is that, victims find it very hard to tell it to others which increse the changes of being attacked again.

ankita
new delhi, India
4/D-134
Jul 21, 2012
07:03 PM

 A lot of sexual harrassment (not all, but a lot) in India is driven by alcohol abusing males. Alcoholism is as much a part of the problem that causes harrasment in workplace,in public spaces and also in private households. But sadly the Media today has completely abandoned the need for social awareness on alcohol abuse and need to combat alcohol abuse. Maybe the media is not interested in hurting the commercial interests of its principal clients (though direct alcohol advertising is banned in india, we have surrogate advertising of alcohol brands that makes mockery of our Gandhian inspired constitution).

Ramki
Delhi, India
3/D-55
Jul 21, 2012
02:38 PM

This may be one of the few times where I agree with Anwaar.

Pradip Singh
STAFFORD, United Kingdom
2/D-17
Jul 19, 2012
06:44 AM

 Dear Natasha,

Thank you for sharing your experiences. There are two aspects. One is your being a female. The other is your being a "target" for a mob. in this case constituted out of school boys.

R. Saroja
Bombay, India
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