“My brother and I were both BJP loyalists, but the dynamics have changed so dramatically this year. I have become a big fan of Arvind Kejriwal and the stand he has taken against corruption. And after he decided to contest from Varanasi, I switched camp,” says Subhash, who has been following Kejriwal around on his campaign trail for a while now. Dinner table conversations at the Rai home in Sunderpur have thus been slightly strained, with the younger brother trying his luck at convincing his brother to switch camp too. “It didn’t work. My brother is too taken up by Modi, as I am by Kejriwal. The situation might become more tense at home if Modi wins,” says Subhash, only half-joking.
Photograph by Amit Haralkar
“This time the media coverage and the popularity of political discussions on the social media has been so larger-than-life that everyone has an opinion. The tone is more aggressive and extreme,” feels merchant navy man Vipul Srivastava, another Varanasi resident who’s turned a Modi supporter but whose parents, retired lecturers, won’t budge from their half-a-century-old Congress loyalty. Family members are also more connected than before to the surplus of information out there through myriad channels: high-pitched exposure on television and traditional print media, rabid virtual networks, glorified political campaigns, which may dictate personal choices, dwarfing the ‘family’ view.
If there’s one political view that Mumbai public relations professionals Arati and Suhas Salgaonkar agree on, it’s that AAP is on a weak wicket, and “nobody becomes a politician overnight”. Says Arati, “My husband and I have grown up with different political ideologies; my family has always been pro-Congress, his relatives are long-time BJP supporters. Initially, we would have a lot of debates at home during election season and were reluctant to see the others’ point of view. Over the years, though, we have softened, the tone isn’t as negative as it used to be.” Even so, this time round the split vote issue seems to have become magnified with polarised candidates and the whole Modi vs Rahul posturing, says Suhas. There are, of course, other subtle factors at play. In parts of rural north, the sense is that the first-time voter wants to break away from caste politics. In sections of urban Gujarat, youngsters admit to being enthusiastic about the newness of AAP, unlike their parents and grandparents, but are hesitant to come on record about it. Not all voters though are being coy about their preferences, even if it means breaking the cordial code among relatives. “It helps that my brothers, both SP supporters, don’t live in the same house with us, so confrontations are few,” says Shabiyanjum Tyagi, 25, a school teacher in Meerut, who recently joined the local Congress women’s wing. “Voting has always been such a personal choice for me, I can’t be influenced by what someone in my family says. We’re all different individuals, after all, with different careers, different life choices, each with a strong opinion. It’s hard to have a consensus on one party anymore,” she says.
Maybe a consensus isn’t as vital for a happy coexistence, says Vibha Batra, author and copywriter in Chennai. She’s impressed with Modi’s Gujarat model, as is her husband Sumeet. Her father-in-law Sarat punched NOTA in a moment of disillusionment while her mother-law Anita found an alternative in AAP. “A split vote in one home is okay so long as you’re careful about what you say,” says Anita. “I for one avoid getting entangled in long political debates with family.” Or, as perhaps any wise person should, take the shouting matches with a pinch of salt.
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