I, Me, Mine

Outlook Moods sex survey

I, Me, Mine

Because the young, urban male has finally learnt how to play

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Special Issue: The Beta Male Special The Beta Male Special

The findings of the Outlook-Moods Opinion Poll 2009 on the sexual mindsets of urban Indian men in the 24-34 years age group have scored a goal. The word ‘change’, optimistically tossed around in the playground of sex surveys for years, is now officially the captain of the game. Acceptance of male-female equality has coupled with the male ego to give birth to the Beta Male. Not the dominating, growling, impatient bedroom partner but a clever young man, quickly aroused and usually satiated. He now understands that sex, like anger, politics or the handling of a TV remote control needs some strategy, some fair play. When needed, he can be the indulgent son, the amused boyfriend, the tolerant spouse, the experimental lover.

If the Beta Male sounds like an underrated aside of master strategist Lord Krishna, then, well, you are beginning to get the picture. He is a player, not a loser. He likes his women “Western with Indian values”, and while monogamous, intimate relationships fuel him most, he is open to one-night stands too. His girlfriends should be emotionally and financially independent, but they shouldn’t be impatient about dropping their panties. He will sleep with his female boss for promotions but is still obsessed with his woman’s virginity. The Beta Male is having fun in a threesome fantasy titled I, Me, Mine.


If given a chance, for which of the following reasons would you sleep with a female boss?
Professional gains (promotion or better salary etc)	33
Feeling of power	14
Just for fun	31
Show off your influence among peers	4
Won’t sleep with a female boss	18

What do you think of women who quickly agree to sex for pleasure without hang- ups?
I prefer those who show some restraint	22
I see them as having low character	22
I get turned on by them	21
I’m not turned on by such women	12
They want to satisfy themselves	21

50% men in Nagpur wear the latest fashion, 25% prefer one-night stands, 92% insist on contraceptives during sex and 82% believe free communication on sexual issues indicates a perfect sexual relationship.



What kind of sexual relationships do you look forward most to?
Monogamous and intimate	71
One-night stands	19
Orgies	5
Partner-swapping	5

What do you think women find most attractive in men?
Money and power	24
Good height and physique	18
Confidence, communication abilities	16
Machismo	7
Polite behaviour	9
Successful career	15
Intelligence	5
Good sense of humour	7

What kind of women do you find sexually most attractive?
Modern but with Indian values	59
Westernised and independent attitude	26
Conservative with Indian traditions	16

How important is oral sex to you during an encounter?
Extremely important	31
Somewhat important	33
Neutral	17
Somewhat not important	9
Extremely not important	10

What is a perfect sexual relationship? (multiple response)
Both partners satisfying each other	64
Frequent sex	35
Experimentation, sexual creativity	35
Freely communicating on sex	42

How important is it to satisfy your sexual partner?
Extremely important	76
Somewhat important	16
Neutral	7
Somewhat not important	0
Extremely not important	0

32% Lucknow men said they were sexually attracted to Westernised women with an independent attitude.



What differences do you perceive between women of your generation and of one generation ago?
Now, girls are independent and have few emotional problems	29
Now, girls are aggressive, demanding	26
Now, they are sexually very open and initiate sex	23
Now, girls think they know everything, that’s a big turn-off for me	9
All of the above	12

Do you insist upon having sex with your girlfriend so that you can know each other better?
Yes	51
No	49

Do you agree that a woman's virginity has nothing to do with a sexual relationship and it is time we stopped making a big deal out of it?
Strongly agree	39
Somewhat agree	31
Neutral	14
Somewhat disagree	7
Strongly disagree	9

What is the most important reason for masturbating?
The absence of a sexual partner	53
Does not require as much physical effort as sex	9
Don’t find partner attractive anymore	5
Partner not sexually interested	5
Safer than having paid sex	13
Helps to relieve stress	9

Do you think men and women should have the same sexual rights and freedom?
Yes, they should have equal sexual freedom	60
No, we can never be equal and women should remember this	19
Men should have more freedom	10
Depends on the kind of woman she is	11

What do you most fantasise about when having sex with your partner?
I don't fantasise about anything during sex	54
About any other woman	14
About group sex or such kinky scenario	6
I try to remember better sexual encounters with my partner	26

If you had a chance to have sex with a woman but at the cost of losing the friendship of a good friend, would you?
Will prefer friendship	66
Have sex	22
Don’t know	12

*37%* Chandigarh men and 26% from Patna said they masturbated because it helped them relieve stress!



What do you do to have an interesting sexual life?
Try different role-plays and positions with the same partner	58
Try to have multiple partners	17
Use sex toys	5
Change locations	20

Can a marriage survive even if there is unsatisfactory sex between the couple?
No it cannot	47
Yes, it can	27
If other adjustments are good, it does not matter	20
Don’t know/Can’t say	5

87% Bangalore men admitted to having had paid sex at least 1-2 times whereas the 10-city average was only 27 per cent!

What would you do to improve sexual performance?
Maintain physical fitness	62
Take sexual performance pills	10
Improve knowledge about my partner's sexual preferences	20
Reading books/audio/visuals for performance tips	8

Which factor in your girlfriend/wife turns you off?
Extreme possessiveness	28
Financial independence	16
Wearing revealing clothes	16
Emotional cribbing and crying	16
Excessive aggression	10
Interference in my life and nagging	15

61% of Bangalore men admitted to premarital sex, having 1-2 partners before marriage.

Rate the importance of sex in your life
Extremely important	57
Somewhat important	29
Neutral	11
Somewhat not important	2
Extremely not important	1



Do you think it is important for your ego to perform well in bed?
Yes	61
No	30

Which physical characteristic in women attracts you most?
Shapely figure	38
Prominent breasts	31
Prominent butt	11
Fair skin	12
Navel	3
Big eyes	5

All figures in percentage
(Survey conducted by MDRA in Gurgaon, Chandigarh, Lucknow, Ahmedabad, Patna, Nagpur, Guwahati, Hyderabad, Bangalore and Kochi from November 14 to 23. Sample size: 1,088 adult males in 24-34 age group. Figures have been rounded off, so percentages may not add up to 100.)

Methodology

The Outlook-Moods Sex Survey was done by Marketing and Development Research Associates (MDRA). A randomly chosen sample of total 1,088 adult males in the age group of 24–34 years were surveyed in ten Indian cities—Gurgaon, Chandigarh, Lucknow, Ahmedabad, Patna, Nagpur, Guwahati, Hyderabad, Bangalore and Kochi.

A structured questionnaire was administered to the respondents by trained investigators of MDRA in a one-to-one interview. The field survey was conducted between November 14 and November 23, 2009. The socio-economic class of the sample size was SEC A1, A2 and B1. A total number of 713 men surveyed lived in nuclear families while 375 belonged to joint families. Out of these 532 were married and living with spouse; 41 were married but living without spouse. A total number of 193 were unmarried but in a committed relationship whereas 322 were neither married nor in a committed relationship.

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